Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

I get a lot of book recommendations from friends. One that I’d heard about a number of times was Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life so I thought I’d check it out.

I don’t overly love the title. I think having expletives in book titles is a bad omen. For me, they are in the same category as, and are reminiscent of, childhood fart jokes. And the book is full of endless repetition of the same expletives. I can only imagine Manson thought they made for good shock value. For me, they don’t.

The premise of the book is pretty straightforward. Manson argues that many aspects of life are pretty messed up and for so many of these aspects, there’s nothing you can do about them.

This is not a “think positive” book. The analogy from the publishers is that instead of telling you how to turn lemons into lemonade, he’s telling you that you need to learn to stomach lemons. At least then you have a chance to be happy.

Clearly, having bad things happen to you can sometimes produce good lessons, but obviously, too many bad things can’t be borne.

What is an interesting discussion in this book, is about how you define happiness. I agree with him that there’s little point worrying about things that you can’t change. I’m a little more positive than him though, on how many things you can actually change.

Many people seem to go through life with the “if only” syndrome. If only I could get a better job, I’d be happy. If only I could pass this exam, I’d be happy. Often these same people have a very unhappy life in the meantime. A different frame of mind might help there.

The Verdict

I liked a lot of the messaging in this book, once you ignore the expletives designed to slap you in the face.  6 out of 10 for me.

2021-04-07